Life is all about killer instincts and survival instincts. Killer instincts because, there will be times and situations where you will have to kill to survive or compete to win. Survival instincts because, too much pain and too many problems have a tendency to weigh down upon you and crush your spirit.
Never rely upon people's sympathy, make them act out of their self-interest, for people rarely act out of sympathy. Make them feel and most importantly, make them understand that doing what you want them to do, is in their best interests.
It's strange to note that people only bend to your will, either out of respect or out of fear. It's just human nature. Talk much and you appear accessible and your value goes down. In any given place, people will start talking about you, when you stop showing up. You go there everyday, and you are just taken note of as an ambiance in the background, which is a given.
It is also interesting to note that many people who consider themselves to be good and appear to be good in the society, have a tendency to ignore other people as 'human beings' like themselves, with all the hopes and aspirations of a beating heart.